Episode 40

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Published on:

16th Jan 2024

What Can We Learn From Drag Queens?

In this episode of Talking Hospitality, we delve into the fascinating world of drag and what lessons the hospitality industry can learn from them.

Summary

The Covid-19 pandemic had a devastating impact on the drag queen community, with performers losing their primary source of income.

Many drag queens turned to digital platforms to perform for their fans, but it wasn't always enough to make ends meet.

As the pandemic continued, drag queens found new ways to adapt, such as starting their own businesses or hosting outdoor events. The drag scene has evolved over the years, especially with the influence of RuPaul's Drag Race.

During lockdown, drag queens used social media to create content and connect with their audience. Advice for those going through difficult times includes finding joy every day, surrounding yourself with good people, and maintaining a positive attitude.

Whilst lockdown seems a distant memory, how are Drag Performers managing now?

To help answer this question hosts Timothy R Andrews, Tracey Rashid, and Sarah Kettel explore the resilience and creativity of drag artists and the challenges they face.

They are joined by the effervescent drag performers Mary O'Kart, Stephanie Von Clitz, and Linda Bacardi in one of our most of the wall episodes yet.

Takeaways

  • The Covid-19 pandemic had a devastating impact on the drag queen community, with performers losing their primary source of income.
  • Drag queens turned to digital platforms to perform for their fans, but it wasn't always enough to make ends meet.
  • Drag queens found new ways to adapt during the pandemic, such as starting their own businesses or hosting outdoor events.
  • The drag scene has evolved over the years, especially with the influence of RuPaul's Drag Race.
  • During lockdown, drag queens used social media to create content and connect with their audience.
  • Advice for those going through difficult times includes finding joy every day, surrounding yourself with good people, and maintaining a positive attitude.

Titles

  • The Evolution of the Drag Scene
  • Using Social Media to Connect with Fans

Sound Bites

  • "The Covid-19 pandemic has had a devastating impact on the drag queen community."
  • "Drag queens found new ways to adapt, such as starting their own businesses or hosting outdoor events."
  • "Drag started as a necessity centuries ago when plays needed female characters, but they were played by men."

Chapters

00:00 The Impact of Covid-19 on the Drag Queen Community

02:05 Adapting and Finding New Ways to Perform

05:43 The Evolution of the Drag Scene

08:06 Using Social Media to Connect with Fans

11:56 Surviving and Continuing to Perform During Lockdown

20:50 Supporting local drag artists

25:12 The power of drag in bringing joy and inclusivity

26:07 Advice for those facing difficult situations

Transcript
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The COVID-19 pandemic has had a

devastating impact on the drag queen

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community.

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With bars and clubs closed for months on

end, performers lost their primary source

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of income.

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Many were forced to find new jobs or rely

on government assistance.

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In the early days of the pandemic, some

drag queens turned to digital platforms to

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perform for their fans.

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They hosted virtual drag shows, sold

merchandise online and even streamed their

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lives on social media.

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However, these efforts were not always

enough to make ends meet.

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And as the pandemic dragged on, many drag

queens found new ways to adapt.

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Some started their own businesses, such as

makeup tutorials or drag weave fitness

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classes, others turned to teaching or

writing.

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And still others found new ways to

perform, such as hosting drag branches or

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performing at outdoor events.

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As things have reopened, we want to find

out what drag queens are doing now.

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Have things returned to normal or have

things changed?

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you

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Welcome to a very special edition of

Talking Hospitality with two T's and a

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catel.

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I'm Timothy R.

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Andrews and I'm delighted to share that we

have a full house today.

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I'm joined by my wonderful co-hosts, the

delightful Tracy Rashid and the fabulous

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Sarah Catel.

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We have quite a spectacle lined up for

today.

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A round table discussion with three

immensely talented and vivacious drag

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queens.

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From Flynn Burge, aka Linda Bacardi, Harry

Casella,

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aka Mario Kart and Steven Maugham aka

Stephanie Von Keats.

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We're here courtesy of the Brighton Box

Gallery who are sponsoring today's event.

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The Brighton Box is an LGBTQ plus owned

award winning art gallery in the heart of

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the lanes, Brighton.

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Whatever your preferred style of art, the

Brighton Box Gallery is able to offer a

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wide range of unique and local artists at

thebrightonbox.com.

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Excited to have you all here with us

today?

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So let's start from the very beginning.

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So what we want to know is what inspired

you to get into drag or let's use drag as

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a verb here.

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Why do you drag?

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Let's start with Flynn.

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I was inspired to be honest.

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I've been doing drag for about 50 years.

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I started with the likes of Lily Savage

and whatever you started at the Black Cap

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in Camden.

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And I used to do websites with the likes

of Sandra and Titi Lacam, Boy George

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Experience, some of which are still on the

scene now.

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and being quite technical and whatever

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And then one day I got asked to join in on

the drug amateur dramatics group called

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the Drama Queens.

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And that inspired me to take it up full

time.

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And then I turned from just somebody enjoy

putting makeup on, being a man in a dress.

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It was an evolution and then I became a

drug week.

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And 15 years later, she's still doing it.

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Amazing.

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Good way back then.

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Oh yeah, yeah.

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Here goes my name.

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How about you Harry or Shagami Mary?

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You can call me everyone darling.

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Someone's calling me.

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So I started doing a lockdown.

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Before lockdown happened, I was a dancer

on cruise ships for like five years.

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And then the pandemic put a halt to that

because nothing could happen.

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So I basically came home and was like, I'm

over dancing on cruise ships.

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I wanted to try something else.

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And I've always been a huge fan of drag

and thought, well, I'll just give it a go.

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Screw it.

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Let's try it.

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So I spent most of lockdown watching

tutorials.

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learning about drag, going to see these

two wonderful people here.

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I saw many shows, you too.

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I believe we worked together.

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Yes, we have.

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Yeah, we have.

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Watching and learning from what the queens

are doing on the scene and kind of molding

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myself and, you know, taking bits and

pieces from everywhere, like a jigsaw and

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kind of figuring out what I wanted to do

and just taking inspiration from

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everywhere and I do it because not to like

keep it on brand, but you know, it's Super

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Mario takes a magic mushroom or like, he

gets big.

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That's how I feel.

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When I do drag, like it's like I've taken

like that super mushroom or that superstar

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and you're just living your best life.

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So I do it because nothing compares to

that feeling when you're on stage and

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drag, like nothing compares to it.

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So that's why I do it and how I got into

it.

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And Stephanie.

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So for me, I started 12 years ago this

year.

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I was mentored by a drag queen called Bet

Rinse.

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And I did a guest spots at halfway to

heaven every Tuesday.

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My first residency was at the Adbal Duncan

in Soho.

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Mitchie have gone from there.

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Then I moved to Brighton, did a guest spot

at the Queens arms with Cosmic.

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And it all kind of evolved from that

point.

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And yeah, I mean, it's an honor to give

back to the scene as well, because what we

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do is we have an open mic night at the

Marine Tavern every Sunday, which

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encourages new artists to come and have a

go, just do it and.

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If it works, it works.

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If it doesn't just keep on going.

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And for me, I think drag is obviously a

complete art form in itself.

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The message that you can leave a crowd

with is always very powerful because you

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should always utilize your own voice and

carry that forward.

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Thanks for bringing your voices to our

show.

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In case some of our listeners, and they

might, because we know some of our

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listeners, don't have a clue what drag is.

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Here is a very brief history.

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Drag actually started as a necessity

centuries ago when plays needed female

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characters, but they were played by men.

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God forbid women should be allowed to

perform for a liling in the 17th century.

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In fact, it's thought to be called drag

because of the long dresses worn by the

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actors and their dresses dragged on the

ground.

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The times have changed and thank goodness

that this is now an art form, not female

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impersonation.

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And it's a whole lot more than that.

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And it's adored now in the mainstream and

there's a staple of the entertainment

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offering within hospitality venues across

the UK.

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So we've talked about history, but what is

drag for you?

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And I'm going to start with Stephanie.

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So drag for me, I touched on it briefly

earlier on, like Mary said, as well.

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It's very electric, that feeling when you

have on stage, if you know that you have a

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room he was engaging with you, there's no

better feeling.

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I think one of my

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favorite moments actually is when it comes

to I say festivals, but pride, because

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it's the message behind everything.

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And, you know, again, you have to push

that message to everyone and I'm not

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pushing it in forcing it upon someone.

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It's giant.

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Yes.

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And it's, and it's just the respect behind

everything and making sure everyone's

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included.

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I can't see myself doing anything else

now.

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It's great.

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I mean, 12 years in, I'll be like 80s, you

know, I'll last that long, but you know,

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who knows?

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A change now, isn't it?

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Well, you know, you know, you know.

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And no offence, Linda.

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Wait, you know.

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Says the 50 year old wild card in the

room.

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What are you, Harry?

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I'm Mary.

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Ethan's fine, darling.

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I think drag for me is just expression.

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And whether that's expression of gender,

whether that's expression of arts, whether

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that's expression of creativity, to me, I

don't think drag has one definition.

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I think it's evolved.

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so exponentially now that there isn't, you

can't define what it actually is.

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I know obviously you touched on what

you're saying about what it used to mean

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or in theory used to mean back then, but I

just think like, to me it is just

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expression and it's whether, whatever that

encapsulates, whatever you want that to

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mean in your own drag, that to me is drag.

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You know, you can get glamorous queens,

their whole thing is pageant style of

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drag, you can get gender non-conforming

drag, you can get...

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To me, everything is drag really.

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Like, I know not to quote RuPaul, but all

born naked and the rest is drag.

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That to me actually really resonates

because everything is like, everything is

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just, we put on clothing and we fit, you

know, you express yourself in what you're

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wearing now.

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Every one of us is expressing something.

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So to me that is drag.

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Yeah, it's just expression of everything.

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Is that famous saying all drag is valid?

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Correct.

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I agree.

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And I love that word expression as well.

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because everyone can express themselves.

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Exactly.

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There's no right or wrong.

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Exactly.

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It's just how you express yourself.

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And drag is just like in the traditional

sense of it, it's just exaggerated

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expression.

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But it is an art form of 12.

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Absolutely.

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An art form of, and it's having, you know,

it's a form of expression.

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Yeah.

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An individual.

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So Linda, you've done this for 15 years,

Slemmon, you've done this for 12.

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Have you seen the drag scene change over

the last decade or so?

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Definitely evolved.

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definitely changed for the better, I

think, because we started before RuPaul's

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Drag Race came along.

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And now it's encouraged a lot of people,

because it's been in the mainstream a lot

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more, to do it.

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And I think that can only be a positive

thing.

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To have the courage to even get on a stage

and to be inspired or influenced by other

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people, certainly now.

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And years ago, there were matriarchs who

paved the way, and that should never be

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forgotten either.

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So it's different times, but again, there

are queens who have done it for years who

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will always help newer artists like myself

and others, give it back, help and

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encourage because if you don't, it'll go.

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Yeah.

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I mean for myself, I'm a child of the 70s

and I was brought up watching the likes of

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the two Ronnies and Littlen and Large and

Les Dawson, Larry Grayson.

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Some of them were quite bad gay

stereotypes because of the climate.

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the legal climate there was then, but

there was also a lot, you know, so Kenneth

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Williams, there was also a lot of, uh,

just circulation and, uh, you know,

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exaggeration, pomp and ceremony where I

got my inspirations from was watching all

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that sort of laughter, variety,

expression.

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And then that took me on a journey when I

was a DJ in my twenties and in my youth.

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And then that went on to me in my thirties

learning about drag, you know, I'm now 50,

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where I started and I look at the pardon

if this sounds condescending, it's not

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meant to an end.

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I see the new age of drag now.

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There's an old school, there's a new

school, there's a new school, there's an

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old school.

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There might be those queens from an older

generation such as myself, some more

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established than others, that will

criticize the young style of drag.

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All the new schools, shall we say.

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But I know that it's an evolution.

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Love or hate.

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RuPaul's Drag Race, but it inspires

people.

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And as long as somebody takes something

from it and makes it their own, if you

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copy it, you copy it and just put a

lipstick on a mime to a Whitney Houston

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song and think, drag queen, that's not my

thing.

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But if you take something from it, make it

your own and you're inspired from it and

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then you perform and you can entertain.

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I'm all for that.

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That's the art and the creativity.

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Really incredible, isn't it?

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And I think the normalising of the

acceptance as well, I think.

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One of the best things that I've seen just

in my personal life was my nephew.

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Absolutely loved Dracarys when it came

out.

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He was about eight at the time.

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And it got to the point where when it came

on the telly when it was on Saturdays or

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whatever, he would literally run to mum's

closet, get a pair of high heels and

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around the living room while it was on.

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Which I think is the most beautiful thing

because if you think back to, you know,

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when you were young, Flynn, would boys

have been able to do that?

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Obviously, I mean, this is an audio

experience, but occasionally on my

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Facebook, there's a picture of me when I

was eight years old and Stephen Hymne was

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seeing me when I was eight years old and

my next door neighbor dressed me in her

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dress.

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Is it a balloon?

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Ray and Judy Garland pinny on and

whatever.

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It's really flock wallpaper behind me.

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It's very sort of 1979.

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That's the only one that's got me in a

trip.

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I can pitch in this gallery as a postcard.

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That sounds amazing.

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What an image.

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Amazing.

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How did the lockdown affect you and how

did you survive during this period?

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Undoubtedly, the COVID-19 pandemic posed

major challenges for performers worldwide.

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How did the lockdown affect you and how

did you survive during this period when

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going to marry?

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I was addicted to TikTok.

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I just use that as a bit of an outlet.

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I used to just do home workouts.

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That's when I kind of started dabbling

into drag as well.

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So I kind of used social media for that.

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I drank my own body weighting wine every

day.

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Just been watched so much TV.

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Yeah, I mean, for me, I just kind of, it

was the time that I was experimenting with

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drag.

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So a lot of my time in COVID was focused

on that.

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So if the pandemic didn't happen, do you

think you'd have had the opportunity to

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focus on drag?

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I don't think so.

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I honestly don't think so because I think

I was in the cruise ship career mind.

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So it was just contract after contract,

after contract, after contract.

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I don't think it would have happened.

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I've always had a love for it.

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I just don't think I've had time to solely

focus on it.

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So who knows?

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I just don't think it would have.

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Why you guys?

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Ladies.

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So for me, it was a bit of a surreal time.

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I lived above a pub at the time.

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So we were literally locked in there for

that all of lockdown.

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That was quite weird, but luckily we had a

rooftop.

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So we can literally like get a bit of

space.

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I remember once we were like,

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peeping out the windows if you're watching

TV downstairs having a roast dinner being

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like, oh my God, I'm just going to know

we're in here.

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That was really crazy.

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And I did quite a few online shows.

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I got involved with the Drag Choir that

thanked the NHS workers.

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That was really good.

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A lot of pre-recorded stuff was done.

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I had the police called on me twice whilst

doing online shows because we were allowed

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to have a smoke machine blaring.

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I don't know why, but I pressed it.

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I was a bit too...

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ego and then I opened the door, it was

like stars in your eyes coming out.

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Yeah, it was very weird.

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But it was a time to get proactive.

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Certainly, you know, if things came along,

I'd jump at it.

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Raising money online, like trying to

survive.

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It wasn't great.

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I got the self-employment grants, all of

them.

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Luckily others didn't.

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It was very, very stressful trying to even

apply for that.

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But I was very grateful that I could get

it.

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It was crazy.

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you know, we got through it and...

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Came out very quickly.

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Yes, absolutely.

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I mean, I think it was a chance to

re-evaluate and just horrendous for other

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workers, let alone performers.

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It feels just about back to normal.

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Before American listeners, because we do

have some, what are self-employment

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grants?

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So self-employment grants, basically it

was like a loan that you were going to pay

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back for sub-employed performers to

survive for living costs, food costs,

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whatever.

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And I think they were basing on different

salaries that you would submit for your

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tax return.

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And that's how they were basing what they

were giving out to people.

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Well, two sides to our employment before

and during lockdown.

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So.

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since moving down here, as well as doing

bits and pieces of drag at weekends, some

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bits in Brighton and some bits out of

Brighton.

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I was also a carer through the early

liberal dementia and actually worked in a

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care facility nearby here in Brighton, New

South 6th.

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With the two main parts of UK's COVID,

shall I say, in between the two, my

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husband worked at the NHS, so he couldn't

work in his environment.

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He was a manager.

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data procurement up in London.

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So he had to work from home and I was

working in a care home and all of a sudden

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I had to stop working in a care home

because sadly my husband passed away.

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It was and still is a bit of a journey,

but what it will save for drag for me

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during the second half, you know, I've

always been quite technically minded and I

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bought a green screen and when we were

allowed to even step around and we, we

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would do these.

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Skype, but something, you know, these sort

of online chats and then I'd upload them

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on Facebook with certain tracks, you know,

Warner Chapel music and all that kind of

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thing.

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For me, what I'm coming out of it

actually, from somebody who's still coming

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out the other end, but still suffering

grief of what I've found of the drag for

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me, not a facade, but it empowers me.

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It gives me a chance to know what I do

actually, makes me feel better about

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myself and if I can entertain other

people, then all the better.

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I think also whilst doing the online

shows, a lot of people were commenting

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saying like, thank you for getting us

through, thank you for helping.

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Like it was a distraction for them just to

watch something because it got a little

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bit mundane, didn't it?

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Like just sat in them doors all the time.

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And then when they said you allowed

certain amounts of exercise, I mean...

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Let them go for a walk.

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Yes, let's jog on the spot.

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You're American listeners, obviously.

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Be very, very familiar with RuPaul's Drag

Race coming out of that.

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I mean, UK Season 1, I acted Molda Wanda's

paperwork filling in for Bag of Chicks.

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And then, no, this is an entirely true

story.

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Me and Bag go, oh, go way back.

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Not like that, but yes, we've been good

friends for a very long time.

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And then coming out of lockdown and

everything else, still having the green

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screen, I had the honor of being able to

record.

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Lovely.

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Miss Clit for season two and you got quite

far with that, didn't you?

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Yeah.

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Yes.

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Wow.

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I gave it a go.

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I'm a very trying woman.

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See, what I love about that is, we were

saying how things were quite repetitive.

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And you know, the TV we did watch, I mean,

we all completed Netflix, like it was

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gaming, I just watched everything.

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And there was no new TV being made.

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They just couldn't do it.

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But actually giving you guys that space to

then go on social media and create that

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content to bring, I mean, people like me,

basically just more of what I wanted.

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And loads of people felt like that, you

know, what we serve through the media

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generally, there was a cutoff point.

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There was a certain amount of what you can

watch, an amount of what's being made.

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But actually.

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You guys then had that space to fill the

gaps that all of us wanted, I think, which

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was a gift.

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It is quite nice because Facebook has the

memories thing, doesn't it?

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Yeah.

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So some of the videos that I did

throughout Lockdown often pop up now.

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And I'm like, gosh, like there was one

green screen thing we had.

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It was like, I was like running through a

bloody roller coaster.

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It was nuts, but it was, yeah, it's nice

to have those kind of memories to look

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back on as well.

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So the three of us here, we have a good

friend called Mrs.

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Moore, John Moore.

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He was the best man at my wedding,

ironically.

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Brother from another mother.

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Yeah, we go way back and it was his kind

of thing.

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Even though he didn't have all the tech

kind of stuff and he only had an iPhone,

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which I got hold for him and some sort of

bits and pieces, which Shally Vape,

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Brighton Queen would do.

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Basically, he would do this kimono thing

where pretty much only dressed in his

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empress new clothes and some underwear.

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He'd wear this.

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No, no, no

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If you were doing it legally, you could

actually get some money from it.

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But even if it wasn't about the money, it

was about the sanity.

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Even if you're insane to do it.

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It's quite hard as a performer when you

don't have an audience.

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Exactly, it's the worst thing I've seen.

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Yeah.

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Very two-dimensional.

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You get in your head a bit.

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Yeah.

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It's quite funny because obviously you're

playing different personalities when

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you're on stage.

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And when you're talking to a computer

screen, your other personality, talking to

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people who are...

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just watching, you can't gauge a reply,

you can't gauge a laughter.

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That energy is missing isn't it?

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I think it was nice when you saw the

reactions and people putting love hearts

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and engaging with you.

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And then you end up saying hello to

multiple people like, hello so and so.

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And then you're like, oh I should do a

song now.

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It's clear that all of you are not only

immensely talented, but also incredibly

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resilient.

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Your stories have been truly inspiring and

enlightening.

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So thank you for sharing that with us.

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What would people do to support their

local drag ads?

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I think to support local drag is to just

go see local drag.

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Obviously with the success of Drag Race,

everybody flocks to the Drag Race shows

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when these Drag Race queens are performing

and I go see them, they're great because

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they're still dragged.

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I'm intrigued to see what they can do off

of the show.

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But I think in terms of supporting local

queens is go and see local queens.

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Don't just flock to mainstream queens.

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This city is thankfully so rich with the

amount of drag that we have here.

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And you can go any night of the week here

in Brighton and to any of the bars and

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you'll see a drag show, whether it's a

bingo, whether it's a quiz, whether it's a

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full on cabaret.

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There's so much out there that you don't

need to just focus on the mainstream.

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Like, and I actually think this is

probably controversial, but I actually

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think it's better.

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I think a lot of the times just seeing

local drag is just better and seeing

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somebody that you've never heard of.

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you may never see again or you'll follow

them or whatever.

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I think that is the best thing.

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Like that is just, that to me is what true

British drag is.

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Like going to these pubs, going to these

nightclubs, seeing that, that to me is

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British drag.

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And, you know, I utilize social media.

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I know a lot of us do follow them on

social media, see what they're doing, buy

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merchandise, you know, if they stream a

song or release a song, go and, you know,

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support in that way.

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But I think the main thing is to just go

and see them.

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And talk to us.

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We all talk after shows.

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Yeah.

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We all talk and we're not.

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I don't think anyone here in the city

particularly is a diva that's done and

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that's it.

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And then they walk off.

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We probably are all pissed with you after.

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We're about to be on it.

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No, and I think that's another thing.

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Don't be afraid to talk to us.

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Like we're not monsters.

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Like come in with human beings and talk to

us.

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We're exactly the same as you.

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Like, I think it is, like you say, just

encouraging everyone and like going to see

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people.

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And obviously the venues that we perform

in needs an audience.

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So.

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use it or lose it because once venues

start going and artists can't perform,

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what can we do?

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Yeah, we're in a central cog in the wheel.

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Yeah, yeah.

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A cog in the wheel, a cog in the machine.

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Yeah, yeah.

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And entertainment, whether it be drag,

singers, bands, does bring in crowds.

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Yeah.

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If people are spending, it helps the venue

out and it helps the artists out.

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And we do it so well, don't we, as a

nation?

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I always think that whenever I go and see

something live, not something that's, you

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know,

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necessarily big stadium vibe, but whenever

I go to something that's fairly local or

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just at a theatre, I'm like, we're so

good.

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Yeah, we're so good at it.

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And the diversity of it as well.

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Oh yeah, absolutely.

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I mean, I love a festival vibe, but

there's nothing better than going to a

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very intimate space to see a show that it

feels like you have more of a connection.

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It's nice, it's really nice, you know, and

you feel something and that's great.

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I've known sign language for about 20

years.

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And I recently had the opportunity through

just signing a number in a drag show a few

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years ago, pre-COVID.

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And then somebody said, Oh, would you do

Worthing Pride?

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Would you do Seaford Pride?

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Would you do Southampton Pride?

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Great young.

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So now I'm actually a signer.

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I do it in drag most of the time.

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It's so casual.

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And I love doing it.

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And that was actually one of the things

that helped me, should we say, mentally.

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disability inclusivity basis.

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I'm epileptic and for me to, I'm stood on

the stage and it wouldn't, if you've got a

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huge field of people wouldn't matter

whether it was three people or 300 that

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were deaf and ambitio or hard of hearing

in, you know, in that field.

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I was at Southampton once and I was doing

Bad to the Devil You Know by Kylie and

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sign language.

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And then I spot it because of their body

language, three deaf gay chaps, the corner

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and they're going, I'm illustrating with

my hands.

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thank you for enjoying yourselves and

British Sign Language to me.

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Shortly after bereavement I suffered, I

was just, I had to go stage-fighting this

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kind of thing, pulling my own self.

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And if something like, the gift that I've

got, whether it be doing Dragon singing

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songs or whether doing Dragon signing to

them, if something I can do gives

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something back, they'll appreciate what we

all do at home.

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It's fulfilling.

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It really is fulfilling.

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One more question for you, though.

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Do you ever embellish?

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Do you directly translate or do you add a

few extras?

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No, depending on context, I might have to

find a keyword and build around.

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You know, I was going to say find context,

but no, I mean, it's only a family event.

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There are certain V words and C words and

other words that we couldn't possibly

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mention on air, let alone in a field.

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Thank you for sharing your experiences.

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It's really important, but we do know that

there are people listening that might

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still construct me, might be going through

some difficult situation themselves.

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What advice would you give to them?

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I want to start with you, my right wing

and you being Mary.

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Find something joyful every single day.

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Find joy in something, whether it's, I

don't know, cutting your nails.

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I don't care whether it's like, I don't

know.

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having a shower, find the joy in at least

one thing you do every day.

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And if you start to build on that as like

a daily manifestation, it will translate

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to a free day life.

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So find something that makes you happy,

that brings you joy, something you love.

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Whether, you know, you're the type of

person that being charitable makes you

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happy and you want to give back to

something or someone, whatever it is, it

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can be so mind you, just find joy every

single day and

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it will manifest into such a bigger thing.

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It's something about positivity, I think.

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No matter what hardships you face at the

end of the day, you find something you're

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good at or find something that interests

you, take it, harness it, and just hold

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onto it and feed off of it, but to know

this can make me feel better about myself.

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And that's what I do every day.

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I'd always say never feel like you're

alone.

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Always make sure you have good people

around you.

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always communicate where you can, always

remember that things always will get

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better.

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If you have a positive outlook, it's like

when you talk and you smile, you have that

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automatic response.

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If you just have that positive attitude,

things will always happen for the good.

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That's my philosophy and I always stick by

it.

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Positiveity is key.

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Negativeity never helps.

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I know, and as much as sometimes some

people, they can find it hard to find

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positivity.

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look around, look around you, you know,

find inspiration at the end of the day.

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Life's too short.

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And we all have off days.

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That's just human nature, but just always.

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Don't make it all the time.

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There's one popular drag queen says, can I

get an amen up in here?

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Your passion for the art of drag is

infectious.

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So thank you all for sharing your

experiences and for adding a touch of

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glamour and glitter to our show today.

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We did, we did have someone in drag

earlier.

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That's why we're saying.

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Mary was looking way fabulous.

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Yes, I am now.

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Putting a sword to shame.

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Still fabulous.

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And there's Ninja and I like Death Becomes

her.

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Thank you, Flynn, Harry and Stephen for

joining us on this episode.

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And a huge thank you to our listeners for

tuning in to Talking Hospitality with two

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T's and a catelle.

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We hope you enjoyed this journey into the

world of drag as much as we did.

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Don't forget to subscribe on your

favourite podcast platform and leave a

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review if it's nice and join us next time

as we continue to explore all things

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hospitality.

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Stay fabulous.

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